sometimes the days are abnormally dark or just harder to deal with than you’re willing to outwardly admit to anyone, ya know. you wake up longing for the rotting feeling in your soul to ebb. you do everything; i mean, will the blinds shut, swaddle yourself in downy covers and pray that even the slightest sliver of sunlight doesn’t crawl across your skin because it could literally be too much to bear.

you’d prefer a devastating hurricane to tap dance against the window; to create a calming cadence that helps still the day. no need for neither a soothing voice nor advice on how to move forward. you just need the pieces of your world to remain broken, for them to fall away. if only for today.

times like these come storming in after a heartbreak shatters the facade. or after you’ve been donald trump’d from the one place you’re anchored to. but what causes these feelings just because it’s wednesday? somehow your biological behaviors, your genetic makeup, just lean toward non-existence rather then bloom toward the brighter spots of life, so you exhaust more effort than others to make sure to smile. to stand in a room and not feel lifeless. and it’s not like you don’t wanna be happy, present – that’s never the case. 

gather a few experiences behind a happy mask under your belt and your mind finally computes that you’re different, then finding ways to level the highs and lows becomes critical. that’s right around the time vodka becomes more than just a drink (or three); it’s the only way to keep smiling when you can barely breathe. not to mention a peek back at the family history that uncovers dad’s bouts of manic depression and the violent divorce that robbed parts of your childhood (oh yeah, and various alcoholics from each side of the family tree) are still locked away in the closet of your mind. the mere thought of unpacking it is just…

admitting the dark days could shatter your ability to cope. or it could free you. you can’t be too sure. but today, like every day, you compartmentalize and concentrate on putting one foot in front of the other and start a new day.

if this was not love then please tell me what was it?


what a weekend.

If you strike a woman, you strike a rock


National Women’s Day is an annual public holiday in South Africa, celebrated on 9 August. 

On 9 August 1956, more than 50 000 women marched on the Union Buildings in Pretoria to protest pass laws that required Black South Africans to carry a ‘pass’. This pass restricted where the bearer was allowed to live, work, and travel. Black South Africans had to carry their ‘pass’ at all times, and were often arrested if they could not produce it. 
After dropping off petitions with more than 100 000 signatures at the Prime Minister’s offices, the women stood in silence for 30 minutes. A song was composed in honour of the occasion, Wathint’ Abafazi Wathint’ imbokodo! (Now you have touched the women, you have struck a rock!)

This display of female solidarity and inner strength showed how women were an integral part of the freedom struggle. The holiday reminds us of the women who helped change South Africa and the women who continue to shape the country. 

The 9th of August is known as ‘Women’s Day’ in South Africa. I have compiled a list of some of my favourite literary quotations about women to celebrate the day.
The Top 12 Literary Quotes About Women for Women’s Day
  1. Every word a woman writes changes the story of the world, revises the official version. ~Carolyn See
  2. I do not wish women to have power over men; but over themselves. ~Mary Wollstonecraft
  3. The domestic career is no more natural to all women than the military career is natural to all men. ~ George Bernard Shaw
  4. It is only rarely that one can see in a little boy the promise of a man, but one can almost always see in a little girl the threat of a woman. ~Alexandre Dumas, fils
  5. Men at most differ as Heaven and Earth, but women, worst and best, as Heaven and Hell. ~Alfred Lord Tennyson
  6. Because I am a woman, I must make unusual efforts to succeed. If I fail, no one will say, “She doesn’t have what it takes.” They will say, “Women don’t have what it takes.” ~Clare Boothe Luce
  7. How wrong it is for a woman to expect the man to build the world she wants, rather than to create it herself. ~Anaïs Nin
  8. It’s wonderful to watch a pretty woman with character grow beautiful. ~Mignon McLaughlin
  9. Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim. ~Nora Ephron
  10. A woman has to live her life, or live to repent not having lived it. ~D.H. Lawrence
  11. If you have any doubts that we live in a society controlled by men, try reading down the index of contributors to a volume of quotations, looking for women’s names.  ~Elaine Gill
  12. I love to see a young girl go out and grab the world by the lapels. Life’s a bitch. You’ve got to go out and kick ass. ~Maya Angelou

by Amanda Patterson for Writers Write


Whole new ball game, whole new day. 🙌


Whole new ball game, whole new day. 🙌

with all due re2pect…